What Is the Double Decker Sex Position?
Okay, you know me – when I first heard about the double decker sex position, I had a moment of, “Wait, what in the world does that even mean?” But once I looked into it, tried it (yes, really), and adapted it to work for my body and my partner’s, I knew I had to write about it.
Because here’s the truth: not all sex positions are built with comfort, confidence, or larger and less-flexible bodies in mind. And exploring something new can feel intimidating – especially when bodies don’t always conform to the bendy nonsense we see in media.
But the double decker? It’s different. It’s surprising, sexy, visually stunning, and more accessible than you’d expect when it’s adapted properly. And I’m going to walk you all the way through it, step-by-step, with zero judgment and maximum realness.
Let’s get into it.
How It Works
The double decker sex position involves one partner lying flat on their back while the other partner straddles their chest, facing their feet – think sexy reverse cowgirl, but higher up on the torso. The partner on bottom can penetrate the one on top orally, vaginally, or anally depending on positioning and flexibility. The partner on top, meanwhile, has access to stimulate the other’s genitals with hands (or toys!).
It’s essentially a stacked experience where pleasure is happening from both ends. Passion on two levels – hence, the “double decker.”
Why It’s Called “Double Decker”
The name might make you think of sandwiches or buses, but in this case, it refers to the vertical layout of the bodies – one stack on top of the other, each doing their own thing, getting their own thing. It’s a multitasking fantasy come to life.
And let me tell you, once you figure out the alignment, the payoff is worth it.
Why People Love the Double Decker
Unique Physical Sensations
This position creates *layered sensation*. The person on top experiences penetration and grinding movement, while the partner on bottom can feel, taste, and touch all at once. It’s a full-sensory ride for both parties – different from traditional missionary or doggy-style postures.
If you’ve ever wanted to feel worshipped while having the freedom to do your own thing, this is it.
Visual Turn-On and Intimacy Boost
I’ll be honest – the first time I looked up and saw my partner’s body above me, completely in pleasure, it was such a raw, intimate moment. There’s something incredibly erotic about watching your partner from a totally different angle while actively pleasuring them.
Bonus: if you enjoy being watched or taking control visually, this position offers major turn-on potential.
Fun and Novelty Factor
Part of great sex is exploration, and the double decker brings a playful energy. It’s not something most people try every day, and the thrill of doing something “new” together doesn’t get old.
Even if it’s messy or awkward on your first try, you’ll be giggling, reconnecting, and building trust – and that’s sexy in itself.
How to Safely Try the Double Decker
Body Positioning and Alignment
This is where it gets technical – sort of like sexy Tetris. The receiving partner lies on their back with a solid foundation (bed or padded floor). The other partner gently climbs up, straddling their torso in reverse and positioning their hips near the receiver’s face.
It may work best if the person on top begins in a squat and then gradually lowers down, sitting on the chest and bracing with knees. Adjust the angle calmly and communicate regularly.
Best Starting Positions and Transitions
If you’re already in face-sitting or cowgirl, you can transition into double decker by shifting backward slowly while maintaining balance with hands on thighs or hips.
Use a pillow under the head and shoulders of the bottom partner to raise their mouth to a more accessible height – this can make all the difference in comfort and access.
Tips for Communication and Consent
Let me be clear – this isn’t a surprise position. You need to talk about it beforehand. Ask if your partner would like to try it, set a “can we pause if needed” signal, and be open about comfort levels on both ends.
I recommend a “green/yellow/red” system for checking in without killing the mood.
Tips for Comfort and Accessibility
Adjusting for Different Body Types
Here’s where my body-positive heart comes in: This position must be tailored to your real body, not a fantasy one. And yes, plus-size folks and those with bellies or thighs can absolutely do this.
Instead of deep squats or tight holds, use partial sitting positions. Have the person on bottom elevate their head or chest with a sturdy wedge cushion. Spread your weight across their body with knees on the mattress, not directly seated on their face.
Using Props or Pillows for Support
I can’t scream this loud enough: Pillows are magic. Use firm pillows (or better yet, sex-positioning wedges) under the receiver’s shoulders to lift them up. A yoga bolster or Liberator Ramp can make breathwork and angle much more comfortable.
Also try wrist supports or a headrest behind the neck if you or your partner have limited arm or neck mobility.
When to Try or Skip Based on Flexibility
If either of you has lower back issues or limited knee flexibility, I’d only attempt this with tons of cushioning and slow experimentation. The person on top needs core control (not six-pack abs, just awareness!), and if that’s not in the cards today? It’s okay to skip or adapt.
Trust me – modifying doesn’t make it less hot; it makes it smarter and more successful.
Common Challenges and How to Troubleshoot
Balance and Stability Issues
It’s a real risk—nobody wants a topple during sexy times. The key is grounding.
- Place hands on the wall behind the bed (if available)
- Keep knees wide and stable on the mattress
- Try a soft headboard to support wobbles
If balance feels off, don’t force it. Adjust gradually, reduce bounce, and keep body weight off the partner’s neck or face.
Maintaining Comfort During Movement
This position isn’t about wild thrusting or bouncing. It’s slower-paced, rhythm-based, and focused on contact and connection.
Encourage the partner on top to use subtle rocking and let gravity do the work while the other focuses on oral or hand stimulation.
What to Do If It’s Just Not Working
Honest truth? Some nights the double decker doesn’t click – and that’s okay.
Laugh it off, give kisses, transition to something more natural, and thank each other for trying something different. Exploration is never wasted. It strengthens intimacy, even when it gets a little silly.
Enhancing the Experience
Toys and Sensory Play Suggestions
Some of my fav toy pairings for this position:
- Bullet vibrator – The partner on top can use it for clitoral stimulation during oral play
- Finger vibrators – Great for the partner on bottom to stimulate themselves or the other
- Flavored lubes – Since oral is likely involved, flavored lube can make things deliciously playful
Creating the Right Setting
Set the tone with candlelight, sexy playlists, and eliminate distractions. A padded, supportive surface is non-negotiable. Think blankets + pillows + maybe even a folded yoga mat under the hips or shoulders.
Building Intimacy Before and After
Share fantasies beforehand to build anticipation. Talk dirty, whisper what you see and feel while in the position, and reconnect afterward – with cuddles, with compliments, with gratitude.
This is how you turn what could feel weird into something deeply bonding.
Final Thoughts: Embrace Exploration with Confidence
Body Positivity and Sexual Confidence
It’s not about the “perfect angle”. It’s about letting your body be part of pleasure, today, as it is. You don’t need to be bendy or tiny or porn-star-flexible to enjoy the double decker sex position.
You just need willingness, communication, and creativity. That makes you sexy as hell.
Knowing When to Move On to Something Else
If it doesn’t feel good, that’s not failure – it’s freedom. You explored. You experimented. Maybe you just needed to try it to know.
And guess what? There’s always another hot adventure waiting. I’ll be right here to walk you through it.
