Let me be straight with you: the reverse cowgirl sex position changed everything for me – and it might for you too.
It’s one of those moves that sounds spicy (and it is!), but under all the hype, it’s also surprisingly empowering. The first time I tried it, I wasn’t sure if my thighs would agree. I worried about comfort, angles, and let’s be honest – what I looked like from behind. But once I figured out the tricks? Game. Changer.
If you’ve felt unsure or awkward about trying the reverse cowgirl sex position, I get it. I’ve been there. But I promise it’s not just something in the sex scenes of adult movies – it’s real, it’s doable, and yes, it can feel utterly amazing for every body.
Today, I’m breaking it all down: what it is, how to do it comfortably, how to make it hotter, and how to make it feel like an empowering, pleasure-filled experience made for you – not the movies. Let’s go, babe.
What Is the Reverse Cowgirl Sex Position?
Basic Description and Visual Orientation
The reverse cowgirl position is a spin (literally) on the classic cowgirl position. Instead of facing your partner while straddling them, you face away – riding them while they lie back or sit upright behind you.
Think of it this way: you’re on top, you’re in control, and your partner gets an incredible view. It’s one of the few positions where both partners have a very different, but very exciting, experience at the same time.
Why It’s Popular: Key Benefits
- You’re in control of pace, depth, and rhythm.
- Amazing clitoral and G-spot stimulation when angles align.
- Great for visual excitement – especially for your partner.
- Freedom to incorporate toys, grinding, and even light spanking if that’s your thing.
- Can feel incredibly empowering and confidence-boosting.
Honestly? It’s a power move and a pleasure booster rolled into one. But there are ways to make it even better – especially for all kinds of bodies. Let’s dive into how.
How to Perform Reverse Cowgirl Comfortably
Step-by-Step Guide
Here’s how I guide people through their first (or fiftieth!) time trying reverse cowgirl:
- Your partner lies down comfortably on their back (or props themselves up with pillows).
- You straddle them, facing their feet. Start by lowering down slowly, using your hands on their thighs or your own legs for balance.
- Find a comfortable angle for penetration. Take your time to ease in gently.
- Once you’re in place, start experimenting with motion: up and down, circular grinding, short pulses – whatever feels delicious to you.
- Use your legs or squat slightly for more range, or shift into a kneeling posture if you’re fatigued.
Start slow. With all your weight shifting, balance and coordination can take practice. But hang in there – it gets easier and way more fun with time.
Best Positions for Comfort and Control
Not all reverse cowgirl setups are created equal. Here are some comfort-optimized setups:
- Pillows under your partner’s hips: This raises their pelvis and can help align penetration for your pleasure zones.
- You kneeling instead of squatting: Less strain on legs, more stamina-friendly.
- Couch or sturdy chair setup: Your partner sits while you sit on top facing away – more upright, more manageable.
Listen, I’ve got thick thighs and limited cartilage in one knee. I’ve learned how to work smarter, not harder. These variations matter.
Variations for Different Body Types and Preferences
If you’re plus-size (like me), have mobility limitations, or just want to maximize pleasure without the strain, these tips are gold:
- Use a sex wedge or sturdy cushion: Elevates the pelvis and saves your back.
- Try the modified “reverse lay-down”: You lie back slightly while still facing away, reducing core or thigh effort.
- Incorporate a partner’s hands: Let them hold your hips and guide you when needed.
- Add a toy (like a bullet vibe): Use on your clit while riding to hit that double-level pleasure.
Your body isn’t a limitation – it’s your power. You just need positions that work for you, not against you.
Tips for Better Pleasure and Confidence
How to Build Comfort and Trust with Your Partner
Before jumping into any new sex move, it helps to feel safe. Period.
Make eye contact beforehand. Talk about what you want to try. Laugh a little. Confidence doesn’t mean you have it all figured out – it just means you’re willing to explore with someone you trust.
And if you’re not sure how sexy you look from the back? Say it out loud if you need comfort. A good lover will remind you what a goddess you are.
Ways to Boost Stimulation for Both Partners
Here’s the juicy part:
- Try grinding instead of bouncing – it feels better and engages more surface contact.
- Squeeze your pelvic floor (Kegels!) when lowering down for tighter sensations.
- Involve a toy (like a vibrating ring for them or wand vibrator for you) – pleasure levels go through the roof.
- Let your partner use their hands – on your waist, chest, or playing with toys. You don’t have to do it all.
Communication and Consent Essentials
Always keep communication open. This is even more important in positions where you’re not making eye contact.
Set up a code word if needed. Stay connected with nonverbal cues. And speak up if anything feels too intense or off-angle – pleasure should never be painful.
Common Challenges and How to Solve Them
Back or Leg Discomfort
If your back or thighs are getting tired (common!), modify your posture:
- Switch to a kneeling position for easier support.
- Hold onto the bed frame, headboard, or your partner’s knees for leverage.
- Pace yourself – you don’t need to do an 8-minute twerkathon. Sex is not cardio unless you want it to be.
Penetration Angle and Depth Issues
Sometimes, reverse cowgirl can feel too shallow – or too deep fast. Adjust by:
- Raising your partner’s hips with a pillow to level things out.
- Shifting your body slightly forward or backward to fine-tune the angle.
- Slowing it down and using lube to ease any discomfort during transitions.
Awkwardness or Performance Anxiety
This one’s big, especially the first time. My advice?
Don’t chase porn-movie perfection – chase pleasure. Laugh if you lose balance. Move in ways that feel sensual, not showy. There is no “right” way to look from behind. The right way is however damn sexy you are right now.
Safety and Hygiene Tips
Protecting Against Injury
Reverse cowgirl carries a slightly higher risk of penis injury if alignment goes off.
Help minimize that with:
- Slow, controlled movements to keep things aligned.
- Frequent verbal check-ins so your partner can guide angle or stop if needed.
- Position modifications to prevent hyper-bending or unexpected action.
Lubrication and Protection Advice
When things get hot, don’t skip the lube. Especially with rubbery bedding, friction from grinding can build fast.
Use a body-safe silicone or water-based lube. And if you’re not fluid-bound with your partner, wear protection – even in “power” positions like this. Access to pleasure includes access to safety.
Reverse Cowgirl FAQs
Can This Position Work for Everyone?
Yes – with the right attitude and adjustments. You do NOT need to be skinny, super bendy, or wildly athletic.
This position is about control and curiosity, not choreography. Modifications, props, and communication make reverse cowgirl available to anyone with a pelvis and an open mind.
How to Make It Feel More Intimate?
Reverse cowgirl doesn’t have to feel disconnected. Here’s how I bring the intimacy:
- Reach back and hold your partner’s hands or thighs.
- Sensual moaning or dirty talk keeps emotional flow active.
- Finish facing each other, cuddling, or making eye contact after. It deepens the connection.
Conclusion: Embrace the Pleasure with Confidence
Bottom line: the reverse cowgirl sex position is bold, thrilling, and beautifully empowering – especially when you make it yours.
It’s not about doing circus-level moves. It’s about discovering what makes your body feel good, confident, and desired. And believe me, there is wild, sensual magic in turning around and saying, “I’m in charge now.”
You deserve great sex that feels just as good with your curves, your comfort, and your confidence. Try it. Tweak it. Own it. Reverse cowgirl awaits, gorgeous.
