Okay, let’s talk about something that’s a bit hush-hush in broad daylight: having sex in the middle of the day. Yep, I said it. And more specifically, let’s talk about the afternoon delight sex position. It’s playful, passionate, and wildly underrated.
Now, I know what you’re thinking. Daytime sex? Doesn’t that take too much time? Doesn’t it feel a little… rushed or awkward? I used to think the same. But once I learned how to actually make midday intimacy not just possible, but deeply pleasurable, it changed everything.
If you’ve ever felt bored with your usual routine, or like you need a reminder that you’re sexy AF outside of the bedroom at 10 PM, I see you. And I’m here to guide you into one of the most energizing, confidence-boosting experiences you can give yourself and your partner: the Afternoon Delight.
What Is the Afternoon Delight Sex Position?
Origin and Meaning Behind the Term
The term afternoon delight might make you think of that cheeky 70s song… and honestly, it should. It’s all about sneaking in a little unexpected pleasure while the sun’s high and life’s buzzing.
In the sexual context, the term has evolved to describe any kind of indulgent midday intimacy, but the “Afternoon Delight” sex position itself is a specific setup that blends comfort, closeness, and ease of movement. Think spooning…but sexier. More upright. Tailored for sneaky, sensual connection between tasks, especially when you want to feel turned on without flipping your whole day upside down.
Why It’s Perfect for Daytime Romance
Unlike some pretzel-like positions that take a pro athlete’s flexibility and a king-sized mattress, this one works on your couch, bed, or even in the kitchen if you’re bold. It’s sexy without being strenuous.
And because it keeps things a little more clothed and casual, it’s ideal for spontaneous lunchtime quickies, lazy weekend cuddles, or even hotel stays where you want that sexy, luxurious midday vibe. Afternoon Delight feels like you’re slipping a secret into your schedule.
How to Perform the Afternoon Delight Position
Step-by-Step Guide
- Start by sitting or reclining on a comfy surface – a sturdy couch with pillows behind or even the edge of the bed works perfectly.
- Whoever is the receiving partner sits on their partner’s lap, facing away from them. Think reverse cowgirl but much more relaxed and supported.
- Allow both bodies to recline slightly, so the receiving partner is resting back against their partner’s chest.
- Feet can be flat on the floor or tucked under depending on comfort and height differences.
- Guide penetration gently while maintaining a slow, rocking movement. Use arms to caress or hold each other for extra intimacy.
It’s cozy, sensual, and close. If this sounds familiar, that’s because it’s a variation of seated spooning – intuitive and ultra-accessible for different body types, including plus-size partners like myself.
Recommended Variations for Comfort and Pleasure
- Place a firm cushion or sex pillow under the receiving partner to keep hips aligned and reduce strain on thighs or knees.
- Try this in a recliner or armchair with arm support if traditional bed use is tough on joints. I swear by my Liberator wedge – total game-changer.
- If movement is tricky, go for grinding and thrusting with hips while keeping upper bodies still. Don’t underestimate the slow burn!
And remember: any gender combination can enjoy this. Strap-ons, toys, fingers – afternoon delight is about the energy, not just the parts.
Benefits of Midday Intimacy
Boosting Confidence and Connection
There is something incredibly validating about being desired when the sun’s out and you’re not in sexy lingerie. You feel seen, wanted, and celebrated in a refreshingly no-frills way.
Midday connection like this can deepen emotional intimacy with your partner fast. It says, “I want you now – not just when it’s dark and we’re tired.” It breaks the routine, reminds you of your sensuality, and makes you feel hot in the most everyday way.
Enhancing Energy and Reducing Stress
I’ve literally gone from stressed-to-the-max to glowing-in-nirvana in 15 minutes courtesy of a quickie like this. Afternoon sex boosts endorphins, oxytocin, and serotonin. That’s science, baby.
Trying the Afternoon Delight position when your brain is foggy recharges you like a double espresso but without the crash. Plus, it’s one of the few times sex might actually give you better focus afterward.
Tips for Making Afternoon Delight Even Better
Setting the Scene for Romance
- Dim the lights just slightly if you’re shy, or open the curtains for that full daylight sensuality if you’re feeling bold.
- Use sexy scents – something subtle like vanilla or lavender creates a warm vibe without overpowering your scene.
- Have your lube ready. Trust me, whether you’re well-oiled or just starting out, nothing elevates comfort and pleasure like good lubrication.
Best Times and Settings for Privacy
If you’re worried about privacy, here’s what works for me:
- Try right after lunch hours when kids, neighbors, or roommates are typically out or napping.
- Use soft playlists or a white noise machine by the door to maintain mood and muffle sounds.
- Hotel trips? Book early check-ins for a reason – midday hotel sex is a whole vibe.
Using Pillows, Props, and Positions for Support
An accessible, adaptable sex life is a better sex life, period. Here are some must-haves:
- A good wedge or positioning pillow (like Liberator or Dame Pillo) helps with angles and reduces fatigue.
- K-Y or Uberlube for minimizing friction in close-contact positions.
- Play with strap-on harnesses with back-support if you’re looking for a penetrative alternative that’s low-effort and upright.
Communication and Consent
Discussing Intent and Desires
Before diving into mid-afternoon pleasure, check in. Ask something simple like: “Would daytime intimacy feel good for you today?”
It’s not about killing the sexy vibe – it’s about creating a safe one. Express what you want without assuming. After all, powerful consent enhances pleasure.
Creating a Safe, Enjoyable Experience
- Have a safeword if you’re trying something new or edging power play.
- Respect if one of you isn’t feeling it midday – listen, adjust, connect differently.
- Talk after. Whether it was fast, slow, or awkward, share your thoughts to build the next experience.
Mutual desire feels way hotter than one-sided spontaneity. Trust me.
Common Mistakes to Avoid
Rushing the Experience
I get it – the clock is ticking. But don’t confuse sexy urgency with frantic fumbling. Take a moment to breathe, connect, and move intentionally. That’s the secret to turning “quick” into “incredible.”
Ignoring Comfort and Timing
If you jump in when you’re not relaxed or skip over adjusting positions for your body, you’re setting yourself up for meh sex or worse – pain. Prioritize pillows, position shifts, and clear communication.
And please, never skip the lube!
Is Afternoon Delight Right for You?
Who Can Benefit Most
This position is wonderful for:
- Plus-size folks who want upright support and closeness.
- People with limited mobility or joint issues who need low-energy intimacy.
- Busy couples seeking connection without blocking off a whole evening.
Most importantly – it’s for anyone who loves sex that feels intimate, easy, and empowering.
Creative Alternatives to Try
If seated spooning isn’t your thing, try:
- Face-to-face straddle on a chair for more eye contact and kissing.
- Lazy doggy on a couch with cushions under hips for those with back strain.
- Side-lying missionary with legs intertwined – gentle, deep, and cozy.
Explore what feels right. Bodies are different, and that’s something to celebrate, not fight against.
So… is Afternoon Delight my favorite position? Honestly… sometimes, yes. When I need a reminder that sexy doesn’t need stage lighting or black lace, it brings me right back to myself. Empowered. Turned on. Alive.
And now it’s your turn. Try it. Make it your own. Let afternoon delight surprise you like it did me – hot, healing, and way better than another cup of coffee.
