I’ll be totally honest with you: when I first heard about the flat doggy style position, I rolled my eyes a little. I thought, “Great… another position that’s just a variation on a theme I already struggle with.” But let me tell you – the moment I actually tried it? My entire perspective shifted. Not only was it incredibly sensual and deeply connective, but it also gave my body — with all its glorious curves and softness — the support and comfort traditional doggy style never quite delivered.
If you’ve ever felt awkward, unsupported, or like a position just wasn’t made for your body, I see you. And you’re not alone. I promise: the flat doggy style position is a game-changer for so many of us – especially if you want deep intimacy, increased pleasure, and a position that genuinely feels good for your frame, flexibility, and emotional connection.
What Is the Flat Doggy Style Position?
Let’s break it down. The flat doggy style position is exactly what it sounds like: a more grounded, supported version of the traditional doggy style. Instead of being up on hands and knees, the receiving partner lies flat on their stomach, legs outstretched or slightly parted for accessibility, and the penetrating partner positions themselves behind, either kneeling or lying on top.
How It Differs from Traditional Doggy Style
The key difference? Support and intimacy.
While traditional doggy can leave you feeling exposed, high up, or wobbly if you have wrist/knee/joint issues, the flat variation offers full-body contact with the bed or surface. This means less tension in the limbs, and more grounding in pleasure.
Bonus: it also allows deeper penetration angles that hit all the right spots without overextending or contorting your body.
Who Typically Enjoys This Position
From my experience working with a wide range of beautiful bodies, here’s who *really* benefits from flat doggy style:
- Plus-size folks looking for positions that distribute weight with more comfort
- People with limited joint mobility, chronic pain, or fatigue
- Anyone wanting to feel more emotionally close while still getting intense physical stimulation
- Couples exploring dominance or submission with greater physical safety
To put it simply: this one’s a win for every body, especially if you’ve been told that hot sex requires performance poses. (Spoiler: it doesn’t.)
Physical and Emotional Benefits
Enhanced G-Spot and P-Spot Stimulation
Here’s where things get really exciting. The flat angle guides the penis, strap-on, or toy along the upper vaginal wall or rectal wall — which is prime G-spot or P-spot real estate.
Because your hips aren’t elevated, the pressure hits just right, especially when paired with a slow grind or controlled thrusts. I’ve personally had some of my most toe-curling blended orgasms in this position, and many of my clients echo the same.
Boosting Intimacy and Emotional Connection
If you crave the mix of intensity and connection? Flat doggy gives you both.
The full-body contact makes it easier for kissing, cuddling, and feeling the rhythm of each other’s breath. It’s perfect for moments when you want to feel devoured but also deeply safe and seen. Trust me, the emotional nuance is *chef’s kiss* in this position.
Improved Comfort and Body Support
No more uneven mattress pressure on your knees or wrists. Your tummy, chest, and thighs get full, soft ground. Want even more softness? Slide a pillow under your hips. That lifts you just enough to shift angles without effort.
This is one of the most accessible positions for individuals with back pain, joint instability, or fatigue. It allows the receiver to relax muscles and focus entirely on sensation, not balance.
Tips for Comfort and Stability
Pillow Placement and Positioning
Pillows are your best friends here, especially if you’re plus-size or have limited mobility. My go-to setup:
- One firm pillow under the hips to raise your pelvis
- Another soft pillow under the chest for breast comfort and spine alignment
- A wedge pillow or liberator ramp can also help shift the angle without over-tucking your pelvis
Recommended Angles for Better Control
If deeper isn’t your goal — or if it’s just too intense — keep your legs closer together and thighs pressed gently to the mattress.
Prefer more range of motion? Part your legs slightly and encourage your partner to kneel between. They’ll have better access to angle their thrusts while keeping your comfort the priority.
Accommodating Mobility or Flexibility Limits
If getting flat on your belly feels challenging, start by propping yourself on your elbows or one side — almost like a fusion between spooning and doggy. Then gradually relax into the flat position as your body allows.
For fatigue management: use a firm mattress or support surface. Flimsy beds can cause sagging that makes alignment and movement harder. Don’t be afraid to position near a wall for a little foot bracing too!
Communication and Consent
How to Bring It Up with Your Partner
Worried how to ask for something new? I always recommend coming from a place of curiosity:
“Hey, I read about the flat doggy style position and it sounds like it could be really amazing for my body comfort and pleasure — want to try it with me?”
Use I-statements, express your excitement, and include them in the exploration. Pitch it as shared adventure, not a change because of “what’s wrong.”
Establishing Boundaries and Safe Words
Flat doggy can get intense emotionally and physically. Talk in advance about limits, pinch points, or language you’d like to avoid during the act. Agree on a safeword that means “stop now,” and consider a “yellow” word to signal “slow down or pause.”
Even when the position is mellow, the psychological turn-on can be powerful — especially if one partner is more passive in this arrangement. Keep the trust flowing both ways.
Enhancing Pleasure and Connection
Recommended Touch Points During the Act
Let your partner roam down your spine with their hands.
I love when my partner rests their palm in the small of my back or massages my booty and thighs while we move. It keeps me grounded and adds layers of arousal.
Other favorites:
- Gentle hair tugging (if consensual)
- Lip to neck kisses while flush against your back
- Playing with nipples or thighs mid-thrust
Using Toys or Lube for Added Sensation
A clitoral vibe underneath your pelvis adds amazing layered stimulation. I swear by the We-Vibe Tango for this position – it’s quiet, powerful, and angled perfectly to stay in place under your pelvis or thighs.
Lube is non-negotiable. Use a high-quality, body-safe lube (like liquid silk or Sliquid H2O) to make everything smoother, more comfortable, and intense without chafing or resistance.
Eye Contact and Emotional Reassurance
If you’re face-down and can’t make eye contact, build in pauses or post-play afterglow moments to *reconnect.* Whisper affirmations, stroke each other’s hair, talk about what felt good.
Or… flip over, and transition to cuddling or missionary for that deep, soulful “I see you” connection. Emotional safety is as hot as physical stimulation — never underestimate it.
Common Misconceptions and FAQs
Is It Only for Couples?
Nope. It’s sexy for solo play too, especially with toys.
You can lie stomach-flat and use a grinding toy like a wand, suction toy, or girthy dildo under you for simulated penetration or clitoral pressure. Try thrusting against a wedge cushion or folded towel too.
Does It Reduce Dominance or Power Play?
Absolutely not. If anything, this position amplifies power dynamics.
The receiver’s vulnerability is heightened — which can be electric. And the giver has full control while still being cradled against the receiver. Add light bondage (like silk ties or bed straps) if you’re into that, or dirty talk to enhance the dynamic.
Domination isn’t about posture – it’s about intention.
Final Thoughts on Flat Doggy Style
Building Confidence Through Exploration
Let me say it loud and clear: your body is worthy of pleasure. Period.
Exploring positions like flat doggy style helps you rediscover sex as something fluid, adaptable, and *made* for your uniqueness — not restrictive, one-size-fits-all scripts from porn or media.
By trying this, you’re empowering yourself to break free of shame and build trust in your desires.
Celebrating Mutual Pleasure and Communication
Ultimately, flat doggy isn’t about acrobatics or “performing” sexy — it’s about feeling sexy in the body you have, with the partner (or self-love practice) you choose.
Talk openly. Explore without apology. Give yourself permission to love what you discover along the way.
You deserve sex that honors both your pleasure and your power. This position? It’s one delicious step in that direction.
