Let’s talk about something bold, taboo-smashing, and 100% body-positive: how to give yourself a blowjob. Yes, autofellatio. We’re going there, and we’re doing it with honesty and empathy.
Listen, I didn’t always think it was even remotely possible. I’m not ultra-bendy, I don’t have a gymnast’s skillset, and nope, I don’t have a porn-star-perfect setup either. But curiosity? That I have in abundance – and I know you do too, or you wouldn’t be here.
If you’ve ever wondered whether it’s possible, safe, or pleasurable to go down on yourself, you are not alone. I’ve had this conversation in quiet DM’s, hushed parties, and now I’m bringing it right here with zero shame and a whole lot of practical advice. So yes, we’re really going to unpack how to give yourself a blowjob: the real talk, the prep, the limits, and the possibilities. Let’s begin.
Understanding the Concept of Autofellatio
What Is Autofellatio?
Autofellatio is the practice of performing oral sex on your own penis. It’s a form of solo sexuality, similar to masturbation, but with a twist—literally.
This is not just about fantasy. It’s about exploring your body’s potential for pleasure in new and unexpected ways. And no, it’s not “weird” or indulgent. It’s human curiosity paired with a drive for personal pleasure.
Myths, Realities, and Limitations
My biggest eye-opener? Most people assume you need a porn-star-sized penis and a circus-level contortionist body. That’s not entirely true.
Yes, some people can do it more easily—but many others can train for it. Still, it’s important to acknowledge that not everyone can physically reach, and that doesn’t make you any less sexy or capable.
The goal isn’t perfection. It’s exploring fantasy, understanding your limits, and enjoying the ride (pun proudly intended).
Is It Physically Possible?
Anatomical Factors
Okay, yes, anatomy does play a role. Penis length, torso length, spinal flexibility, and even jaw structure can influence how close you can realistically get.
But anatomy isn’t everything. I’ve coached clients with average sizes and above-average curiosity who’ve made surprising progress with consistent bodywork and technique.
Flexibility and Body Type Considerations
If you’re plus-size, you might assume autofellatio is out of reach. I hear you – as a curvy-bodied person myself, I’ve been pigeonholed by “fitness myths” for years. The reality is way more nuanced.
Your ability depends less on what the number on the scale says, and more on how your body bends and moves. Core strength, hip mobility, and spinal flexibility matter a LOT more.
And if you have mobility challenges or chronic pain? This guide is still for you. You might focus on fantasy, adapted positions, or even assisted movement—but this is your sexual journey, and it’s still valid.
Preparing Your Body for the Attempt
Stretching and Flexibility Exercises
If you’ve ever seen people wrapping themselves into pretzels for yoga, you get the idea: spinal and hamstring flexibility are your best friends.
Here’s what I used (and still use) regularly to improve range of motion:
- Seated forward bends (start slow, without forcing)
- Reclined hamstring stretches (use a yoga strap if needed)
- Cobra stretches for lower back flexibility
- Cat-Cow stretches daily to warm up your spine
Do these consistently, at least 10-15 minutes a day. Over time, your body will start to open up—literally.
Strengthening Your Core and Back
The surprise MVPs of my autofellatio journey? Core strength and spinal support. You’ll need a strong foundation to lift, hold, and balance your body weight in semi-inverted positions.
My go-to core exercises:
- Planks with deep, controlled breathing
- Bird-dogs for back and glute integration
- Leg lifts and pelvic tilts for pelvic floor awareness
Don’t skip this work. It protects you from injury and helps you get closer to whatever version of the experience your body can achieve.
How to Safely Attempt It
Best Positions to Try
Now for the real deal: what position works best? Here are a few starting points I recommend:
- Laid-back method: Lie on your back, lift your legs over your head (like a plow position).
- Seated forward fold: Sit with legs extended, bend forward slowly toward your penis.
- Wall-supported inversion: Legs against a wall, hips lifted with a pillow for leverage.
I suggest practicing each one slowly, well-stretched, and without any goal beyond comfort and curiosity at first. It takes time.
Tips to Avoid Injury
Here’s the deal: You must warm up. Cold muscles and ambitious positions invite trouble.
Better to stretch for 2 weeks first than rush and strain your neck or spine. Always move slowly—no jerking or bouncing. Your neck, spine, and hips are precious.
Signs You Should Stop
If you feel:
- Sharp pain (especially in your lower back or hamstrings)
- Numbness or tingling
- Dizziness upon standing or during attempts
Stop immediately. Pleasure never requires pushing through pain. Rest, reassess, and consider talking to a physical therapist if you want support modifying your practice.
Hygiene, Safety, and Consent
Cleanliness Before and After
Here’s a step people often overlook: hygiene. Since you’re combining oral and genital contact, your usual pre-masturbation routine may not cut it.
Before you start:
- Shower or wipe down your genital area thoroughly
- Brush your teeth or rinse your mouth (reduces bacteria)
Afterward, always rinse your mouth and genitals again. Keep it clean and stay ready for next time.
Listening to Your Body
This is sacred ground. If your body says “Hmm, not yet,” respect it. That’s not failure—it’s feedback.
Some days, your flexibility will surprise you. Other days, your body might say nope. That’s OK. Every attempt, whether successful or cut short, is a beautiful act of self-exploration.
Mental and Emotional Aspects
De-stigmatizing Self-Pleasure
If the idea of giving yourself head feels “too much” or makes you feel guilty—let’s unpack that. Society likes to shame desire, especially queer desire, solo exploration, and anything outside traditional sex norms.
This is your body. Your pleasure. Your choice. There is nothing shameful, sinful, or “weird” about getting curious about what your body can feel.
Managing Expectations
I’ll be real with you: most people won’t ever deep throat themselves. That’s honestly not even the point. The goal is pleasure, not a checklist.
Let yourself experience the journey. Even getting close, licking the head, or using breath and fantasy around the attempt can be deliciously fulfilling on every level.
Alternatives and Enhancements
Using Toys, Mirrors, or Fantasy
If full-on autofellatio isn’t happening? Fantastic news: there are creative alternatives that feel amazing.
- Blowjob simulators: Stroking sleeves designed to mimic oral sensations
- Mirrors: Watching yourself attempt (or simulate) it can be visually arousing
- Fantasizing: Use the fantasy of autofellatio while masturbating – your mind is your most powerful sex toy
Other Forms of Solo-Oral Exploration
You don’t have to reach your genitals to play with the idea of oral self-pleasure:
- Try kissing or licking your inner thighs or shaft if your flexibility allows
- Use lube and combine edging techniques for mind-blowing solo sessions
- Pair an oral sex simulator toy with affirming dirty talk (yes, to yourself!)
When to Consult a Professional
Understanding Your Limits
If you’re hitting a plateau or experiencing discomfort, it might be time to call in expert support.
And no, asking for help doesn’t mean you’re broken—it means you’re resourceful. I’ve referred clients to pelvic floor specialists, yoga instructors, and even kink-informed chiropractors who help bodies do beautiful things, safely.
Talking to a Physical Therapist or Sex Therapist
If autofellatio becomes a recurring interest or part of your self-pleasure repertoire, there’s nothing wrong with consulting a pelvic health PT or sex therapist.
They can guide you around safe stretching, modified positions, and help dismantle old internal shame that might be holding you back more than your spine ever will.
Final Thoughts: Respecting Your Body and Desires
Whether you ever touch your tongue to your tip or not, this exploration is a bold, beautiful move in your pleasure journey.
Learning how to give yourself a blowjob isn’t about acrobatics. It’s about possibility. It’s about owning curiosity, honoring your body, and knowing that your desire is valid, worthy, and truly sexy just as you are.
So go slow. Stay safe. Get creative. And never forget: your pleasure belongs to you, and it is as limitless as your courage to claim it.
