I’ll be honest with you: the first time I heard of the “spider monkey sex position,” I laughed out loud. Like, really? Spider monkey? But hear me out – this playful name hides a gem of a position that blends connection, core strength, and a whole new way to bring adventure into the bedroom.
I created this guide because so many of my clients and readers kept asking for positions that balance fun, full-body stimulation, and a bit of challenge. And despite the silly name, the spider monkey sex position absolutely delivers – and yes, it works for different body types too.
If you’ve ever felt like acrobatic positions just “aren’t for people like me,” I get it. I’ve been there. But I promise: this one is worth exploring, and I’ll walk (or swing) you through how to make it amazing for your body and your experience level.
What Is the Spider Monkey Sex Position?
Origin and Inspiration Behind the Name
The name comes from (you guessed it) the spider monkey – a nimble primate known for wrapping all its limbs around a tree branch and hanging on tight. The idea here? The receiving partner wraps their arms and legs around the giving partner, creating a suspended, clinging body-on-body experience that feels intimate, primal, and a little wild.
It’s not about mimicking a monkey – it’s about embracing closeness from all angles, using your entire body. And the name just helps keep things playful and memorable.
Visual Description and Body Placement
Think piggyback ride meets full-body embrace. One partner (usually the person being penetrated) wraps their legs and arms around the other from the front, chest-to-chest. The penetrative partner supports their weight by standing or gently leaning against a wall or bed, securing the wrapped partner in place.
You’re essentially hanging onto your partner like a spider monkey on a tree branch – with all four limbs engaged, hips aligned, and intense eye contact just a breath away.
Why Couples Love This Position
Key Benefits for Intimacy and Pleasure
This isn’t just a circus trick – the spider monkey sex position has real benefits:
- Maximized intimacy from full-body contact
- Deep penetration and G-spot/C-spot stimulation due to vertical angle
- Incredible opportunities for kissing, eye contact, whispering
- Great for exploring dominance and surrender dynamics in a gentle, playful way
It’s physically intense, yes, but it’s emotionally charged in the best way.
Who Can Benefit Most from This Position?
I recommend this to couples who want to build more sensual closeness and body awareness. If you’re someone who thrives on skin-to-skin intimacy or craves that wrapping-up-your-lover moment, this is your position.
It also benefits those who enjoy more control in climax tempo – the giver can set the rhythm, leaving the receiver hands-free to simply feel and enjoy.
How to Perform the Spider Monkey Position Safely
Step-by-Step Setup
Okay, let’s break it down:
- Start by standing face to face. The giving partner stands strong, ideally near a supportive surface (like a bedframe or wall).
- The receiving partner wraps their arms around the giver’s neck or upper back.
- Next, lift one leg at a time to wrap around the giver’s waist. If lifting is difficult, use a firm surface like a bed or padded ottoman to help with stepping up.
- Once securely wrapped, the giver supports the receiver’s weight with their hands gripping under the thighs or glutes.
- Maintain a rockable rhythm. This is not about jackrabbit thrusting – think steady motion, using hips and core to stay connected.
Common Mistakes to Avoid
- Don’t skip the warm-up or physical prep – this position engages muscles!
- Avoid sudden lifts or rough balancing – slow and steady wins.
- If either of you is struggling to hold the position, stop. Use props or shift to lying/sitting versions.
- Communication breakdowns – talk through discomfort or adjustments in real time.
Tips to Enhance Comfort and Satisfaction
Best Physical Conditions and Fitness Level
Let’s be real – this position is a little more physically demanding than your average missionary. But that doesn’t mean it’s off-limits for anyone. Here’s my take:
- Core strength and upper body endurance do help, especially for the giver holding weight.
- Flexibility matters more for the receiver (hip rotation and thigh engagement).
- Don’t be discouraged if your first time feels a little clunky – it gets better with practice.
Even as a plus-size woman, I’ve made this work with partners of all builds, using smart positioning and making adjustments based on our bodies.
Recommended Props or Modifications
Here’s the game-changer: PROPS.
- Sex Swings: A door swing can make the “wrap around” sensation effortless, transferring most of the weight to the swing support instead of your partner’s body.
- Wall Support: Do it up against a padded wall, headboard, or sturdy chair for added stability.
- Knees Tired? Grab a Yoga Block or Ottoman: The receiver can lightly squat on it while still wrapping the legs, reducing strain.
Making sex accessible isn’t about lowering the bar – it’s about raising the comfort level. Adapt away!
Communication and Consent Are Key
How to Introduce It to Your Partner
If dropping the phrase “spider monkey” makes you giggle, that’s okay. Use that humor!
Say something like: “I read about this wild but intimate sex position called the spider monkey – it’s got us wrapped up chest-to-chest, super close. Want to try it together?”
Framing it as playful exploration rather than performance pressure makes a huge difference.
Creating a Judgment-Free Space
Let me say this loud and clear: you do not owe anyone Olympic-level sex acrobatics.
Trying new positions should never come attached to body shame, fear of “looking silly,” or performance anxiety. Create space to laugh, wobble, flop into bed afterward – and treat every attempt as a win.
Give each other permission to feel awkward or giddy. That’s how joy lives in the bedroom.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is It Difficult to Perform?
It can be at first! Especially if either of you isn’t used to bodyweight holds or full-body wraps. But like anything else, it gets easier with time and practice. Using props helps dramatically reduce the strain.
Can It Lead to Injury?
Any physically challenging position carries some risk. The most common issue is muscle strain – especially for the giver. Always support your partner’s weight properly and stop immediately if something feels off.
Warm up beforehand and keep your movements slow and controlled.
Does It Require a Certain Body Type?
Absolutely not. What it requires is awareness of your body’s needs.
If you have a bigger body or limited joint mobility, props and surface support will be key. You might not “hover” like a magazine pic… and who cares? You’ll still get the pleasure, the closeness, and the fun.
Sex isn’t an audition. You don’t do this for a camera. You do it for you.
So whether you’re curvy, compact, tall, disabled, or a glorious mix of everything in between – the spider monkey sex position can work for you with the right support and setup.
Wrap-Up: My Final Take
The spider monkey sex position is one of my not-so-secret favorites for couples looking to deepen connection without sacrificing heat or creativity.
It celebrates full-body intimacy and isn’t afraid to be a little bold. And most importantly, it can be adapted to suit your body and your desires.
So if you’re ready to try something equal parts cheeky and sensual, give the spider monkey a swing.
And hey – the next time someone says, “You did what in bed?” You can proudly say, “Oh, just a little monkeying around. No big deal.”
